Over- emotional Reader during a Reading?

I'm am saddened today to even have to write about a subject such as this, but my recent experiences have shown me that I simply must!

First, I have to start by sharing something shocking with you.. tarot readers go to readers too!   No joke, we really do!  Sometimes it is rather difficult to read our own situation accurately because we are way too close to it and need that second opinion. It was during some recent months that I had done just this. I went to a few psychic readers. One from a huge auction house, and another was a friend of mine. What happened over the course of the readings was..  a bit worrisome, and upsetting.   Both readers were very removed and uncaring over my situation and berated me for even being concerned over the troubling news of a relationship situation they just gave me.  I didn't ask about a relationship, but they went ahead and addressed it, gave me upsetting news, and then topped it off with being condescending in the process. The information they gave me really didn't ring true to me, and when I questioned them, they got very upset and began to yell at me. One of them even said they couldn't understand why I would want a loser like that in my life anyways cause he isn't worth while and is so selfish. One of the readers said, ' he obviously doesn't make you happy and your life is going no where or why would you bother to have called me'. (I called about finances)

Both of them said.. ' I wouldn't want a man like that, why do you even like this type of guy, that says a lot about you'. Now, for the record.. we are talking about a truly wonderful man that I care a lot about. Right now, he is going through a low point in his life that is trying on him spiritually, emotionally and physically. He is addressing those issues, so imo.. the last thing he needs is to be looked down upon. He is everything to me and has been for a third of my life. In truth, I'd say he's my other half, like my twin. I don't want to get off track here, but I was stunned by the treatment of both of these readers. When I expressed how important this man is to me, both went on to say I needed to get him out of my life. They continued on making me feel belittled and insignificant to him, stating he will only talk to me as long as I never say anything about my own feelings and allow him to walk all over me. I left the phone call in tears, only to find out that much of what was said wasn't even true.

I am telling this because I want both Tarot / Psychic readers and Clients to both be aware in case you notice your reading begin to travel down this road.What these readers did was take away my power. When I was open and most vulnerable, they tried to convince me that my situation was not the way that I saw it. Belittled me and my situation, and then at the lowest point, they hung up and left me with no support and took away my choice, my personal power, my strength and then left me feeling alone and unsupported at the end of the call. I also found out later that they both new each other and were friendly, and it's possible they were discussing me before I had the reading.

In no way am I suggesting that all readers are like this, not at all!  I want to stress this point. There are a great many wonderful and truly talented readers that act in accordance to professional and ethical guidelines. The experience I went through happens with unethical non professional readers. I don't want to judge them on why they behaved this way, but I do want to point this out to both readers and clients. This does, unfortunately, exist.

Fellow readers..   I would like you to keep in mind that our clients are asking for a reading because they are undergoing some emotionally charged issue that they are concerned about. That is near and dear to their hearts. They are coming to us because they really need someone they can turn to in trust, and help them sort things through.

In order for us to read them properly, they have to open their chakras and be completely exposed to us. They have to give us their blind trust, on many occasions. This leaves our clients completely vulnerable. In that moment, we are caressing thier energy and  have the state of their being in our hands.. holding and examining their lives in order help them understand the choices before them. Our role is to provide them with guidance and empowerment so they can continue along their path with confidence and strength in their decisions.

As a reader, if you find yourself becoming judgmental, irritated, non supportive, belittling, fearful, etc. you need to be aware that you are no longer reading on a spiritual plane. Those emotions are only felt on the physical plane along side our ego. Spiritual wisdom does not come from that place. When you begin to experience these feelings, you need to take a step back, detach, and then ground. 

If you find yourself often having these emotions when reading for a client. You may want to take a break from reading and assess where those feelings are coming from, and why they appear when you are reading for others. Also, evaluate how you are making your spiritual links with the Universe and your client to see if some adjustments are needed. If you are having trouble with reading properly, you may want to join some professional reading groups and organizations to help you attain a different type of reading relationship with your clients that will strengthen the bond between you and your clients, and help you gain more confidence in your readings.

Something a client can do before getting a reading with a new reader. Ask for their Code of Ethics. Do they adhere to a higher standard of practice?  Do they belong to organizations and take their practice professionally and ethically ?

I hope this has opened some eyes for anyone that works in our field to be aware of what our clients experience on their end when sitting for a reading.

Many Blessings.....

The Hanged Man's Journey

I didn't know what to type for today's Blog post, so I drew a card out of my new deck, A King's Journey, to see what would spark my intuition!  The lucky card is the Hanged Man.

I was told, not too long ago, that my Hanged Man was, ' the happiest Hanged Man I've ever seen'. lol.. and indeed, it is. The reason I designed it that way, is because I see this card, in relation to the Fool's Journey, as a lad that is really happy and comfortable where he is at this point in his life. He's so comfortable that he doesn't really want to know what possibilities lie before him..... he only knows he doesn't want to go back and relive what he's just been through, nor does he feel he's ready to go forward. He's happy just to sit there and let time pass.

In the Journey of the Fool, he is between the Five of Cups and the Six of Pentacles. He is in a place where he can watch what's going on around him without being involved. No one will bother him by asking silly questions, or pester him with *this* obligation or *that* responsibility. He can blissfully hang from his perch and watch the clouds go by and ignore the images he saw in the Five of Pentacles puddle.. and if he is quiet enough..  he doesn't have to move forward and have people wanting something from him, or live up to something he's not ready to offer of himself, as is suggested by the Six of Pentacles.

I'm sure many of us can relate back to a time when we lost all hope (five of cups) and we KNOW we didn't want to return back to the way things were, but we just couldn't go on and give of ourselves quite yet. We needed that little break, to refocus our energies and rejuvenate our spirit so we could see things in the right perspective.

My life has been a bit like that lately. I felt as if I had lost everything that I loved and placed so much of my hope and future in.  My reality came down around me, and I felt like the sun was setting on a dream that I had had for a long time. Inside, I felt like I could scream! Taking a breather with the Hanged Man was very nice, and now I'm able to give back to clients and loved ones that are grateful for my presence, knowledge and skills. Likewise, I can see things through the eyes of a new perspective and I am so appreciative of the value that my business and my clients add to my life.  I learned that valuable relationships can be found outside of a loving relationship with a significant other.

This is a fantastic lesson I learned, however, there is another meaning to this Hanged Man that I see play out in my life at times. It doesn't have as much to do with me, as it does with someone whom is very important to me. In this case, I believe the Hanged Man represents that comfortable spot in which he is so comfortable, he either doesn't want to or can't change his life for anyone or anything.

This is that type of thinking where.. you know, the guy that won't get a job, won't go out of his way unless it serves him, and wants everyone to do things for him? He has every excuse in the world as to *why* he can't do anything and we should all realize this?  In reality.. He's one of the happiest people on the planet!  He has no reason to get down from that branch.. because many of us allow him to stay up there.

The saddest thing about this, is that he is sacrificing a lot in that line of thinking. He sacrifices friends, loved ones and even his own freedom. He is in a suspended frame of mine that doesn't allow for his feet to be planted on the ground. No one can travel a journey with him, because he isn't traveling. He can only speak to them as they pass by. His entire life is passing him by.. and all because he is SO comfortable he refuses to get down off that branch!

If he would allow himself to slip off the branch, he would fall into an abyss of  emotional issues that would cause him to change. But oh no.. he can't have that!!   He would then be forced to face up to some realizations in his life.. right before the finality of  Death (permanent transformations). Death forces him into maturing and letting go of those issues that he refuses to face... and for him sitting on that perch, unthinkable! Death is too final.. the Hanged Man is a blissful existence.


The closest thing that I can relate this to, is someone in jail. Time has been suspended for them to reflect and gain some type of spiritual enlightenment of what they've just went through. The problem is, if they are in that place too long, they become so comfortable, they lose skills. They may not even want to get out of that place and back into society because it's scary. What if they have to face what they've done?  What if they do it again?  Do they want to lose the security they have in there?  Too many emotional issues they'd have to face. So, they sit there... as time passes by.

So, reflecting back on the Hanged Man reminds me that sometimes, we do need to remove ourselves in order to gain, not only spiritual enlightenment, but a new perspective on what has happened. If we are there for too long.. in that place, it becomes a comfort zone, and we refuse to test the boundaries or to 'get down'. It's a refusal to experience life.  It suggests a delay in the maturing process and the person whom you are reading is allowing life to pass them by. That doesn't mean to totally forget the past (the six of cups is still to come in the journey and we can have the opportunity to revisit some of our better memories)... but  it does mean we  need to have spiritual enlightenment over what has just happened, perspectives need to be readjusted, priorities need to be reassesed and it's time to move past the pain that keeps us from growing.

See you soon, my lovelies :)

Resolutions and Revelations....

Today is the the second day this year that I have felt completely collected and back in focus. You know that feeling where you have allowed life to pull you off track and then you crashed and burned before you realized how far off track you really were?  That's me since the end of November. I got caught up in emotional traps of other people, and didn't take care and nurture my spirit. Physically, I fell sick, and then mentally I crumbled until I emotionally came crashing down.

I learned a very valuable lesson through all of that, that I'd like to share. Fatigue, illness, and moodiness can be symptomatic of allowing our vibrational energies to fall way too low. Not taking care to keep toxic things out of our lives. For me, negative energies pulled on me and I wasn't mindful to sweep those away and work at keeping an elevated vibrational level. I've come to realize it is very essential to the human spirit. I'll talk more about how to increase your vibrational levels over the next few weeks, when I share tips on how I overcame some emotionally low points in my life, and raised my vibrations and got myself back on right track!   So please, stayed tuned in and watching for that!

But now, after a good cleansing, detoxifying my energy, grounding and eating healthy, I've begun to feel rejuvenated again!  My focus is back, and clarity is here!

Ace of Swords.. Ahh...  Mental Clarity. Here's a picture from A King's Journey..

It shows us that allowing ourselves to express our feelings within the boundaries of respect and honesty can give way to a new found path of freedom.  Freedom to think clearly and cut through any mental trappings that can stop us in our path. Inspiration and focus can take us to knew heights and gain a better perspective than we would have had, if we stayed low in the valleys when times are rough. Focus can see us through depressive times when we've become so emotionally involved in something, we lost sight of the goal.

Such a lesson that I learned over this past week. I'm refocused on my business, making plans and tighting up my business model. I feel great about some changes that you will start to see.  One, is that I plan to keep in touch with everyone by writing on my blog, twittering and facebook postings.  I am excited to inform you that I have been working on my newsletter and changed its name to Everyday Divination. I hope I can bring you useful divinatory tips that you can use in your everyday life. For the lay person and the professional alike and the best part.. FREE to anyone that wants to sign up for it.

I really feel that this is going to be a huge year for me, in particularly with business. As you may, or may not know, James and I have finished designing and illustrating the deck, A King's Journey. I am now working on the book and also raising money for the printing costs. Yes, I am self publishing! :)   If this can happen before April, I am hoping to plan a trip to the United Kingdom this summer.  We hope to be able to sign copies of our deck and give readings in various locations around the United Kingdom and Ireland.  Anyone that would like to donate or invest in this project, please email me..   tarot_reading_site@hotmail.com We would appreciate any help that we can get with funding the printing. :)

In conjunction with that, I am raising my rates on February 15, 2010. I'll fill you in more on that later.

I'm very excited about everything that is going on right now and the plans that are to come in the future!  Don't forget, I'm still offering phone readings at reasonable rates on my site, http://www.tarotreadingsite.com. I look forward to reading for you soon!

Blessings,

Chanel x