Can't Take a Compliment?

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I have overcome many difficult situations in my life.  I have learned some very harsh lessons, but surprisingly.. one of the hardest things I've learned was how to take a compliment. Hard to believe... I know!  But very true. 

I hadn't really thought about it much, until today. Someone that I hold very dear to my heart was struggling with a compliment that I paid to him. Instead of saying thank you, he lashed out at me.  This got me to thinking, how many people really do have difficulty receiving compliments.

I want you to ask yourself these questions..

Do you ever get uncomfortable when someone compliments you?

Do you wonder if a compliment really means something sarcastic?

Do you wonder if the compliment was a lie?

Do you give out heart felt compliments?

I'm sure there are situations or people that have made us feel uncomfortable from time to time, on the rare occasion. But,  what I'm talking about is when you are feeling awkward more often than not. If so, then you may have a problem with self worth or trust. I say this, because there is a block there that keeps you from accepting the compliment. It is in direct conflict with what we believe we deserve to hear.

Even so, rest assured that it doesn't always have to be that way!  I want to challenge you to practice this exercise when you feel uncomfortable with a compliment.

When someone pays you a compliment.. embrace it with a smile and say thank you. It's that simple! If you find it hard to embrace, look at it logically. Does the person have any reason to lie to you or harm you by giving the compliment?  Have they anything to gain from giving the compliment?  Most of the time the answer will be no.  If there is an issue with someone trying to butter you up unnecessarily or being sarcastic, don't be afraid to address that with them in a very logical (and grounded) manner.

If you've concluded that in their heart of hearts they were just paying you a compliment, by all means embrace the compliment and take it deep down inside of you. Allow it to meld with you and be filed away as 'proof' that you ARE deserving of that compliment.

Compliments shouldn't imply anything other than exactly what is meant. When it's time to give a compliment, make sure they are deserved and heart felt. This allows for the sanctity of  energy return to maintain its integrity.

A compliment is praise with no ulterior motive. It simply is what it is. It is energy being directed to you as you had sent it out before. It is only being reflected off of the person whom is handing the compliment back to you. When you projected the positive energy.. it went out to affect others. To hear it come back to you is a blessing that you should embrace !

So, the next time you receive the compliment, just take a step back and let it sit with you.. and simply say, ' thank you', knowing that you just received gratitude for what you have already given to the world.