What I love about mornings.... the chance to start all over :)

What I love about mornings.... the chance to start all over :)

I woke this morning with a new sense of purpose. I made a promise to myself to reconnect spiritually with the Universe and my Divine purpose. I also promised myself that I will let go and 'prune' energies, people, habits and things, that do not serve me well or do not look after my spirit properly.

You see, the past year has been an emotional roller coaster, and probably the hardest year of my life. At times it was also one of the best years.  Business has been growing and for the first time in my life.. I LOVE my 'job'. I use the term, job, lightly. I used to have jobs, where I would go to work, get paid and get not one ounce of satisfaction from it. But last year, I started my own company and I've loved every moment of it. My clients are superb! They are the most interesting and special people, and I'm grateful to be of service to them.

Another great moment was to  fulfill the dream of creating a tarot deck that will be published. Not only did I finish creating the tarot deck, A King's Journey Tarot, but I realized I enjoyed it so much, that I plan to create more decks. I even have some in the works! Super exciting for me!

However, true to life as it is, up times are countered with down times.. and those down times affected me in a very negative way. You see, when you have some emotionally great times with someone, and then are later told that what you shared with someone was based in a lie, that has a profound affect on you and your trust in people. It's hard to understand why someone chooses to lie, or play with your feelings. It could be that they don't understand their own feelings, but couldn't look outside themselves enough to understand the affect their actions have on loved ones. Perhaps I am taken for granted, or not appreciated, or because I am consistently present in good energy, I am not valued. You know, much in the way we don't value the air we breathe, or the sun shining on us.. because we expect it to always be there, supporting us. But without it, our lives would not be joyful or fulfilling, and we would die.

I could sit here all day and list all the reasons in the world, but it would never dull the painful scars it left on my heart. What I can do, however, is look at what this teaches me about the person and about myself. I can also change what I CAN control (which is not the other person).   Learn the lesson from the experience and move forward, which is exactly what I am going to do!

I realize that I allowed myself to sink into the pain, which became my focus. THERE is a lesson learned! My focus should have been to stay on my goals and all the positive things in my life. I subsequently gained weight, became depressed, and non-productive. YUCK!  

Today, with clarity and renewed value in my spirit, I CHOOSE to stay focused on my well being and my business. I vow to allow myself to step out of my shell and embrace all the beautiful souls that I have come to know and adore. I will allow myself to expand and grow spiritually and emotionally. I will let go of issues that affect me physically, and focus on feeling alive and living a healthy lifestyle. I will open myself up to  living optimistically and being fun and embrace whomever wants to live in the same energy as me (as I did before I allowed myself to focus on the wrong energy). I also vow to prune that which doesn't serve me well.  Most importantly, I will be more transparent and open in my business and allow everyone to get to know me on a personal level, so you can know who Chanel REALLY is :)

What promise did you make to yourself this morning?

Can't Take a Compliment?

I have overcome many difficult situations in my life.  I have learned some very harsh lessons, but surprisingly.. one of the hardest things I've learned was how to take a compliment. Hard to believe... I know!  But very true. 


I hadn't really thought about it much, until today. Someone that I hold very dear to my heart was struggling with a compliment that I paid to him. Instead of saying thank you, he lashed out at me.  This got me to thinking, how many people really do have difficulty receiving compliments.

I want you to ask yourself these questions..

Do you ever get uncomfortable when someone compliments you?

Do you wonder if a compliment really means something sarcastic?

Do you wonder if the compliment was a lie?

Do you give out heart felt compliments?

I'm sure there are situations or people that have made us feel uncomfortable from time to time, on the rare occasion. But,  what I'm talking about is when you are feeling awkward more often than not. If so, then you may have a problem with self worth or trust. I say this, because there is a block there that keeps you from accepting the compliment. It is in direct conflict with what we believe we deserve to hear.

Even so, rest assured that it doesn't always have to be that way!  I want to challenge you to practice this exercise when you feel uncomfortable with a compliment.

When someone pays you a compliment.. embrace it with a smile and say thank you. It's that simple! If you find it hard to embrace, look at it logically. Does the person have any reason to lie to you or harm you by giving the compliment?  Have they anything to gain from giving the compliment?  Most of the time the answer will be no.  If there is an issue with someone trying to butter you up unnecessarily or being sarcastic, don't be afraid to address that with them in a very logical (and grounded) manner.

If you've concluded that in their heart of hearts they were just paying you a compliment, by all means embrace the compliment and take it deep down inside of you. Allow it to meld with you and be filed away as 'proof' that you ARE deserving of that compliment.

Compliments shouldn't imply anything other than exactly what is meant. When it's time to give a compliment, make sure they are deserved and heart felt. This allows for the sanctity of  energy return to maintain its integrity.

A compliment is praise with no ulterior motive. It simply is what it is. It is energy being directed to you as you had sent it out before. It is only being reflected off of the person whom is handing the compliment back to you. When you projected the positive energy.. it went out to affect others. To hear it come back to you is a blessing that you should embrace !

So, the next time you receive the compliment, just take a step back and let it sit with you.. and simply say, ' thank you', knowing that you just received gratitude for what you have already given to the world.

The Universe Does Give Us Signs....

It's really true!  The Universe gives us signs, but, only when we are paying attention, do we get the benefit and reassurance from them.

Let me tell you my story..

Over the weekend, I was toying with the idea of entering into coaching program with Elizabeth Genco Purvis, The Marketing Goddess. She is phenomenal !  She has been my coach for some time and I have grown so much through her system. This new program is one that I KNEW in my gut that I had to participate in. The only thing stopping me was that I wasn't sure I could afford it. Yuck.. isn't that always it?  But then I would hear  my mind ask.. Can you afford NOT to do this?  umhm.. exactly!  I knew it was the right step and the next step for my business and I couldn't pass up the opportunity.   I made my payment which wiped out my bank account.   I've never made such a bold decision  with my finances before...

I had lit a green candle that morning .. and spend a few hours pondering this program. About ten minutes after I grabbed hold of my opportunity.. my daughter says.. ' Mom, look at the candle'.  Wow!  I couldn't believe it. The wick had folded over in such a way that it looked like a tree.  My older daughter exclaimed.. ' Mom, it looks like a money tree'. That's it!  I truly believe it to be a sign that I made the right decision.. and everything will be okay.  In all honesty, I know it was the right decision, but comforting to know that financially, everything will be okay. I felt the shift in my life, and I have to say, the Universe has provided. I feel so blessed and full of gratitude !

What I want to ask of you.. over the next week, see how many signs you get from the Universe. It could be anything, a smell, a picture in melted candle wax, a song on the radio, etc.  Don't expect to see the sign in order for it to prove itself....just pay attention and see what signs come your way this week!  Feel free to note them here ..

Blessings unto you!