Over- emotional Reader during a Reading?

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I'm am saddened today to even have to write about a subject such as this, but my recent experiences have shown me that I simply must!

First, I have to start by sharing something shocking with you.. tarot readers go to readers too!   No joke, we really do!  Sometimes it is rather difficult to read our own situation accurately because we are way too close to it and need that second opinion. It was during some recent months that I had done just this. I went to a few psychic readers. One from a huge auction house, and another was a friend of mine. What happened over the course of the readings was..  a bit worrisome, and upsetting.   Both readers were very removed and uncaring over my situation and berated me for even being concerned over the troubling news of a relationship situation they just gave me.  I didn't ask about a relationship, but they went ahead and addressed it, gave me upsetting news, and then topped it off with being condescending in the process. The information they gave me really didn't ring true to me, and when I questioned them, they got very upset and began to yell at me. One of them even said they couldn't understand why I would want a loser like that in my life anyways cause he isn't worth while and is so selfish. One of the readers said, ' he obviously doesn't make you happy and your life is going no where or why would you bother to have called me'. (I called about finances)

Both of them said.. ' I wouldn't want a man like that, why do you even like this type of guy, that says a lot about you'. Now, for the record.. we are talking about a truly wonderful man that I care a lot about. Right now, he is going through a low point in his life that is trying on him spiritually, emotionally and physically. He is addressing those issues, so imo.. the last thing he needs is to be looked down upon. He is everything to me and has been for a third of my life. In truth, I'd say he's my other half, like my twin. I don't want to get off track here, but I was stunned by the treatment of both of these readers. When I expressed how important this man is to me, both went on to say I needed to get him out of my life. They continued on making me feel belittled and insignificant to him, stating he will only talk to me as long as I never say anything about my own feelings and allow him to walk all over me. I left the phone call in tears, only to find out that much of what was said wasn't even true.

I am telling this because I want both Tarot / Psychic readers and Clients to both be aware in case you notice your reading begin to travel down this road.What these readers did was take away my power. When I was open and most vulnerable, they tried to convince me that my situation was not the way that I saw it. Belittled me and my situation, and then at the lowest point, they hung up and left me with no support and took away my choice, my personal power, my strength and then left me feeling alone and unsupported at the end of the call. I also found out later that they both new each other and were friendly, and it's possible they were discussing me before I had the reading.

In no way am I suggesting that all readers are like this, not at all!  I want to stress this point. There are a great many wonderful and truly talented readers that act in accordance to professional and ethical guidelines. The experience I went through happens with unethical non professional readers. I don't want to judge them on why they behaved this way, but I do want to point this out to both readers and clients. This does, unfortunately, exist.

Fellow readers..   I would like you to keep in mind that our clients are asking for a reading because they are undergoing some emotionally charged issue that they are concerned about. That is near and dear to their hearts. They are coming to us because they really need someone they can turn to in trust, and help them sort things through.

In order for us to read them properly, they have to open their chakras and be completely exposed to us. They have to give us their blind trust, on many occasions. This leaves our clients completely vulnerable. In that moment, we are caressing thier energy and  have the state of their being in our hands.. holding and examining their lives in order help them understand the choices before them. Our role is to provide them with guidance and empowerment so they can continue along their path with confidence and strength in their decisions.

As a reader, if you find yourself becoming judgmental, irritated, non supportive, belittling, fearful, etc. you need to be aware that you are no longer reading on a spiritual plane. Those emotions are only felt on the physical plane along side our ego. Spiritual wisdom does not come from that place. When you begin to experience these feelings, you need to take a step back, detach, and then ground. 

If you find yourself often having these emotions when reading for a client. You may want to take a break from reading and assess where those feelings are coming from, and why they appear when you are reading for others. Also, evaluate how you are making your spiritual links with the Universe and your client to see if some adjustments are needed. If you are having trouble with reading properly, you may want to join some professional reading groups and organizations to help you attain a different type of reading relationship with your clients that will strengthen the bond between you and your clients, and help you gain more confidence in your readings.

Something a client can do before getting a reading with a new reader. Ask for their Code of Ethics. Do they adhere to a higher standard of practice?  Do they belong to organizations and take their practice professionally and ethically ?

I hope this has opened some eyes for anyone that works in our field to be aware of what our clients experience on their end when sitting for a reading.

Many Blessings.....